Last week, I learned that before Regan popularized “trickle-down economics”, it was known as the Horse and Sparrow theory: “If you feed the horse enough oats, some will pass through to the road for the sparrows.” In other words, sparrows benefit when horses are overfed since eventually, they’ll shit some undigested oats. Stumbling across this reminds me of when I learned that the phrase “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” was originally a joke because it’s absurd and physically impossible. Overtime, the phrase got co-opted into a rallying cry for American individualism. These turns of phrase are more than just clever language — they’re invisible forces shaping how we think the world works. Which influences our behavior and in some cases, our identity. When we blindly accept and repeat these platitudes, we risk adopting ideas that don’t quite hold up. Understanding the context behind these phrases goes beyond trivia; it’s a reminder to examine the stories we tell ourselves and each other about money, success, struggle, and fairness — and to ask whether they’re serving us or just feeding the horse. How have stories about success, self-reliance, or how the world works shaped your path? Are there beliefs you once held tightly, only to later discover their cracks? I'd love to hear what’s been shifting for you. Don’t be shy; hit reply! 1.💸 Are We in a Vibecession? And What Does It Mean for Your Business? (Paco for Square) This Week's Featured Story: A 49-Year-Old Public Health Professional Who Finally Got Loan Forgiveness but Faces Tense Money Conversations at Home 👤 Who: Female, 49, Public Health 📍 Location: Durham, NC 😔 How I Feel About My Finances Right Now: I feel like I’m just now understanding how scary financial insecurity can be. My parents were more financially stable than I am, and while I’ve worked hard, I wish I had planned better in my 20s and 30s. 💰 Income: $90,000 🏦 Savings & Investments: $5K (savings), $350K (retirement), $8K (investments) 💳 Debt: $17,500 (credit card) 🎯 Financial Goals: Paying down the rest of my credit card debt and sticking to a budget. 💎 Financial Windfalls: I imagine I’ll receive some inheritance, but I have no idea how much. 👥 Who Relies on My Income: My kids, but I don’t anticipate needing to support my parent. However, we may need to help my in-laws, though we aren’t financially in a position to plan for that yet. 😩 Financial FOMO: I’m usually not jealous, but I do get annoyed when friends in different economic brackets are oblivious to the fact that I don’t have as much disposable income as they do. ✅ Financial Habit I’m Proud Of: Paying off almost half of my credit card debt and getting on a budget. 🔄 Financial Habit I Want to Change: I went into credit card debt for things I didn’t need. I’m working on changing that. 💡 Best Financial Advice: “Never put anything on a credit card that you can’t pay off.” (Thanks, Dad.) 🚫 Worst Financial Advice: “Move your debt onto a low-interest card.” It just made the debt grow. 😔 Money Regrets: I wish I had learned earlier how to save and invest—even small amounts. 💸 Most Frivolous Purchase: So many! Anything I buy and never use, like clothes that just sit in my closet. 🗣️ Talking About Money: Financial discussions with my spouse are very tense—we don’t see eye to eye on financial decisions. I like talking to friends to learn how they manage money in partnerships. 💰 Money & Relationships: I haven’t told my spouse that I’m independently seeing a financial planner. 🚀 Biggest Financial Moment: I took out loans for my master’s degree, planning to use Public Service Loan Forgiveness (PSLF). The program was brand new at the time and confusing. I accidentally paid on the wrong plan for almost three years, overpaying for two full years. Thankfully, after a long battle (and COVID loan pauses), my loans were finally forgiven in 2022. If not for PSLF—flawed as it is—I’d be in a much worse financial position today. If you'd like to share your story with us, submit it here!
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